jb in dc

someday....it's on the way... doesn't your head h...

2010-03-07T10:15:47.366-05:00

someday....it's on the way...

doesn't your head hurt?

knowing you and loving you makes me think about th...

2010-03-03T23:53:24.208-05:00

knowing you and loving you makes me think about these issues all the time - you ARE making people think and you ARE raising awareness! Little by little, Baby...today me - tomorrow the world!

I found this by googling 'genderqueer females who ...

2010-02-25T03:15:46.262-05:00

I found this by googling 'genderqueer females who present femme' and just really wanted to thank you for posting it, because the feeling of not being 'allowed' to claim the genderqueer label because of how I dress most days is something I've really been struggling with lately.

David's quote does come off as very self-centered ...

2010-01-08T19:17:15.330-05:00

David's quote does come off as very self-centered but I do understand his point and frustration. The REAL point is that all people who live in this country should be afforded the SAME rights, regardless of race, sexuality, bank balance or social standing

ughh that quote made me vom a little. you are not ...

2010-01-05T21:34:48.212-05:00

ughh that quote made me vom a little. you are not wrong and mistaken.

Wow! This has really hit home for me! I'm working...

2009-12-08T19:18:49.036-05:00

Wow! This has really hit home for me! I'm working through some questions about gender identity and my identity as a Femme, and this really helped me clarify some of those questions. I've had a really hard time working through any of this because I couldn't even articulate the question, much less come up with an answer. Thank you.

no wonder you are so tired - if I had all these th...

2009-12-02T10:50:42.929-05:00

no wonder you are so tired - if I had all these thoughts running through my head at night i'd never get any sleep!

you hit the nail on the head, jb. i have thought a...

2009-12-01T12:45:01.083-05:00

you hit the nail on the head, jb. i have thought all of these things over and over again even when it didn't feel ok to think them.

now it does :)

this is such a thoughtful post. we need to think a...

2009-11-30T21:11:24.090-05:00

this is such a thoughtful post. we need to think about this stuff every day.

This made for nice reading on a rainy day down her...

2009-11-24T13:34:55.892-05:00

This made for nice reading on a rainy day down here.

Keep it up JB.

- Mike C

thanks singlelady. i think you are right about a...

2009-11-23T14:30:25.346-05:00

thanks singlelady.

i think you are right about a lot of those things. and i think that we are probably in agreement about a lot of them. there are multiple ways that we queer folks transcend gender, yes, and you hit those definitely.

I guess what i am comparing my "genderqueered" experience and my "femmed" experience. Often I think I felt less queer and less visibly queer, at that, when I was femmed up compared to being genderqueered.

i think it has to do with whether or not people perceived me as straight and/or not queer enough.

i think i was trying to hit on the heirarchy of "who is queer enough," "who is genderqueer enough," "who is trans enough," etc and so forth.

sometimes it feels like a heirarchy. and one that is not so inclusive.

and this was just meant to be a glimpse of what that feels like sometimes.

I understand your feelings behind this, and why yo...

2009-11-23T14:03:50.144-05:00

I understand your feelings behind this, and why you would feel like this. However, did you prove this theory/idea while you were there? Did you try to walk into a genderqueerfucking space with those asstightjeans and see if anyone rolled their eyes, gawked, gave you the stink eye? (I have seen you in those jeans and they would probably being looking at you not in a judging way but in a omghowdoigetintothosejeans way)

It seems like you found another person who was feeling the same way you were. So what's not to say that a majority of those people were feeling the same way and had someone called them out on it that it would have gotten it out in the open... potentially resolved it.

I don't see why you presenting as a femme, walking down the street, holding your partners hand, kissing her (I am assuming Hannah prefers female pronouns, if I am wrong please correct me) in public is not in it of itself stepping out of the gender boundaries and therefore fucking gender. I mean how much out of or in between these gender norms does one have to be to self identify as afuckinggenderqueer? (ps I really like the way you run words all together I am totally stealing it)

I assume that each one of those folks at the conference could give you their personal definition for what/who/how a genderqueer person is, but who is to say that they are right and you are wrong? No one can truly put a definite/absolute definition on an identity. What is the definition of a man? and who came up with it? and must one fit every aspect to claim the identity? How many of the aspects would a female bodied person have to fit in order for her to claim the identity? So I basically just rambled on because I don't want to work and I don't know how to wrap this up, but hopefully I gave you some things to think about or at least laugh at me about :D

<3

After thoughts?

2009-10-15T01:55:11.150-04:00

After thoughts?

you know that I would be there if I could, Baby - ...

2009-10-09T00:10:38.291-04:00

you know that I would be there if I could, Baby - I'd march with you if you wanted to march - I'll be there in spirit!

and I am proud of you and happy that you are the w...

2009-10-07T00:57:58.992-04:00

and I am proud of you and happy that you are the way you are and I love you...and I am so sorry if I ever made you feel like you had to be thin to fit into what you thought I thought was normal...just so you know, I don't see you in sizes, Moon. I see you as a brilliant light....

Moon - if you're confused about all this then I am...

2009-10-01T23:39:51.992-04:00

Moon - if you're confused about all this then I am in BIG TROUBLE! Help!

Geez, what happened? I agree with you here - and I...

2009-09-26T12:08:06.620-04:00

Geez, what happened? I agree with you here - and I'm assuming that you can dump amy comments that aren't anonymous as well...if you don't want other people reading what I have to say to you - you should delete my comments. It's your blog and you have the right to do it! Love you...

This makes me sad, Moon...First of all, if I were ...

2009-09-15T23:04:15.085-04:00

This makes me sad, Moon...First of all, if I were able to, I would punch that guy right in the face...and yes, I know who he is! GD that asshole! You didn't tell me because you knew I would call his mother, huh? I need you to know that I wouldn't change ANYTHING about you. You are different and unconventional, powerful and amazing, beautiful and unique...even straight jennie would not have done it the old-fashioned way. That's one of the things that I love about you - you do it your way and in the process, open OUR eyes and teach us all very valuable lessons. I know that that doesn't make it any less difficult for you, but I hope it helps to know that I love you...

sometimes I don't "get" the songs that you put her...

2009-08-22T15:22:26.048-04:00

sometimes I don't "get" the songs that you put here, but I REALLY like this one! Thanks, Moon!

it makes me happy that you are so happy!

2009-08-22T15:14:53.452-04:00

it makes me happy that you are so happy!

as you will find, you, thing, are included in item...

2009-08-20T12:09:43.701-04:00

as you will find, you, thing, are included in item 12.

i love you

me?

2009-08-20T12:00:52.824-04:00

me?

this.

2009-08-20T07:07:42.352-04:00

this.

Keep on educating us, JB! We need you to keep show...

2009-08-08T01:41:09.526-04:00

Keep on educating us, JB! We need you to keep showing us what is real out there...

I think the point is just that you can do whatever...

2009-07-31T15:26:47.573-04:00

I think the point is just that you can do whatever the hell you want. Queer or not queer. There is no reason to be "queer" for the sake of being "queer." Hell, who defined "queer" anyway? What does queer look like?